Monday, September 5, 2011

Rules for Dads of Daughters

This is the sweetest thing I've ever heard. And of course, I was bawling like a little baby while reading this.

If you don't already know, I am the token daddy's girl. My daddy is my world, he was the first man I ever loved and the man that I compared all boys to while dating. I'm pretty proud that I chose to marry a man who has many of the great quatlities that I love about my daddy. I love him with all of my heart!

Well in honor of my daddy, who is having the biggest surgery of his life tomorrow, I will post this for him...

Rules for Dads of Daughters. You can find the whole list here. I picked my favorites...


1. Love her mom. Treat her mother with respect, honor, and a big heaping spoonful of public displays of affection. When she grows up, the odds are good she’ll fall in love with and marry someone who treats her much like you treated her mother. Good or bad, that’s just the way it is. I’d prefer good.

My parents wedding. August 1966. They just celebrated 45 years.
2. Always be there. Quality time doesn’t happen without quantity time. Hang out together for no other reason than just to be in each other’s presence. Be genuinely interested in the things that interest her. She needs her dad to be involved in her life at every stage. Don’t just sit idly by while she add years to her… add life to her years.

3. Save the day. She’ll grow up looking for a hero. It might as well be you. She’ll need you to come through for her over and over again throughout her life. Rise to the occasion. Red cape and blue tights optional.

4. Savor every moment you have together. Today she’s crawling around the house in diapers, tomorrow you’re handing her the keys to the car, and before you know it, you’re walking her down the aisle. Some day soon, hanging out with her old man won’t be the bees knees anymore. Life happens pretty fast. You better cherish it while you can.

5. Pray for her. Regularly. Passionately. Continually.

6. Buy her a glove and teach her to throw a baseball. Make her proud to throw like a girl… a girl with a wicked slider.

7. She will fight with her mother. Choose sides wisely.

8. It’s never too early to start teaching her about money. She will still probably suck you dry as a teenager… and on her wedding day.

9. Somewhere between the time she turns three and her sixth birthday, the odds are good that she will ask you to marry her. Let her down gently.

10. She’ll probably want to crawl in bed with you after a nightmare. This is a good thing.

11. Few things in life are more comforting to a crying little girl than her father’s hand. Never forget this.

12.  Dance with her. Start when she’s a little girl or even when she’s a baby. Don’t wait ‘til her wedding day.

I loved dancing with my daddy!
13. Learn to say no. She may pitch a fit today, but someday you’ll both be glad you stuck to your guns.

14.  Tell her she’s beautiful. Say it over and over again. Someday an animated movie or “beauty” magazine will try to convince her otherwise.

15. Take her fishing. She will probably squirm more than the worm on your hook. That’s OK.

16.  Take her camping. Immerse her in the great outdoors. Watch her eyes fill with wonder the first time she sees the beauty of wide open spaces. Leave the iPod at home.

17.  She’s as smart as any boy. Make sure she knows that.

18.  Teach her to change a flat. A tire without air need not be a major panic inducing event in her life. She’ll still call you crying the first time it happens.

19.  When she learns to give kisses, she will want to plant them all over your face. Encourage this practice.

20.  Let her hold the wheel. She will always remember when daddy let her drive.

21. Of course you look silly playing peek-a-boo. You should play anyway.

22.  Letting her ride on your shoulders is pure magic. Do it now while you have a strong back and she’s still tiny.

23.  Remember, just like a butterfly, she too will spread her wings and fly some day. Enjoy her caterpillar years.

24. She will eagerly await your return home from work in the evenings. Don’t be late.

25. If her mom enrolls her in swim lessons, make sure you get in the pool too. Don’t be intimidated if there are no other dads there. It’s their loss.

Not exactly a pool.. The beach is the next best thing.
26. Never miss her birthday. In ten years she won’t remember the present you gave her. She will remember if you weren’t there.

27. Take it easy on the presents for her birthday and Christmas. Instead, give her the gift of experiences you can share together.

28. Let her roll around in the grass. It’s good for her soul. It’s not bad for yours either.

29. Go ahead. Buy her those pearls.

30. There will come a day when she asks for a puppy. Don’t over think it. At least one time in her life, just say, “Yes.”

My first puppy - Petrie :)
31. Let her know she can always come home. No matter what.

32. Write her a handwritten letter every year on her birthday. Give them to her when she goes off to college, becomes a mother herself, or when you think she needs them most.

33. Learn to trust her. Gradually give her more freedom as she gets older. She will rise to the expectations you set for her.

34. When in doubt, trust your heart. She already does.

35. Ice cream covers over a multitude of sins. Know her favorite flavor.

36. Today she’s walking down the driveway to get on the school bus. Tomorrow she’s going off to college. Don’t blink.

My first day of first grade.

If you have time today or tomorrow, please say a prayers for my daddy's surgery.

Happy Labor Day :)


Christi said...

This is precious!!! We are saying lots of prayers for your family and your dads surgery tomorrow!

Michael [} said...

Hi Lia - Thank you so much for sharing this on your blog! I had no idea when I started writing these that they'd A) make such an impact and B) spread so far and wide. Ahhh... the internets.

On another note, is there any chance you might consider linking to my blog from your post, as well? If so, the link is:

Thanks for considering it!


P.S. Praying for protection for your dad and peace for you during his surgery today.

lb said...

This is so sweet, Lia. I love the pictures woven in. It's just precious!